I have had some big news in process that I did not want to announce until it was complete. After a year of being separated and in the limbo of being married but not living together and lots of prayer and godly counsel from people I greatly respect, I filed for divorce this past April. It was a difficult decision to make and one I made slowly and cautiously.
Since we married when I was only 18 years old, I have never really been a single adult until now. I found out a few weeks ago that the divorce is final and so it is time to let you all know and to move forward with my life and my continued recovery as a single person. I am keeping my name the same because of my publishing profile and the assistance programs in which I am already enrolled or in the process of enrolling.
Toben did not contest the divorce and we are both moving forward without exchanging money or possessions. That makes it simple and pretty straightforward.
The girls are going to stay with Toben and live in Colorado Springs. They have friends and school there, so it makes the most sense. And because I live in a 55+ community with Mom and Dad, children must be 18 in order to be residents.At this point in time, the girls are too young to live here.
It looks like the girls and I may be doing some counseling together in the future and Toben and I will develop a much more detailed parenting plan as part of that process with the counselor in Colorado Springs my attorney recommended. Please pray for this whole process. Thank you!
Naturally, I am disappointed and sad that this is happening. Even though divorce was my decision, it is certainly not something I planned for or dreamed of for my life.
I do know that God is still writing the story of my life and while I do not know what upcoming chapters hold, I am certain the story will end well. God is good like that, you know…