One of the readers the other day posted a comment about how it might be good for our family to get some counseling. I really appreciated the comment because it affirmed one of the things that has been central to our process for the last year. We have a family counselor, Audrey has her own psychiatrist as do I, the girls both got counseling at school and Emma was involved in a very cool grief workshop for elementary aged student. Whew! We love to get our counseling on!
Today we had a great session with our family therapist. It was one of those rare appointments where he just affirmed a lot of the things we've been thinking and he was especially affirming of Audrey who has been doing some great work lately. In past sessions Audrey has been pretty quiet but today she was just overflowing. It was so cool to see her so engaged. She even asked to talk to the doctor for a few minutes on her own so that she could get some breathing exercises and techniques to combat anxiety attacks. I'm looking at her thinking, "This is a kid we had to DRAG here two months ago." I am so proud of her and thrilled to see her maturing right before our eyes.
Made me realize how much of the battle we have faced as a family over Joanne's stroke is a mental/psychological/relational one. Yes, there are the physical components and limitations for Joanne but so much of the battle for each of us is happening between our ears!
Here is what I am thinking: we need to air out our brains. I almost envision a cool breeze or clear water passing over each of our minds, clearing away the clutter and confusion and just leaving our brains shiny and happy. I am going to think about what it might take for each of us to get our brain cleared up. I know this is a weird visual but that's how my own brain works! I think we are all trapped in our own thought processes and fears and confusions. Let's clear out the noise and rest in light of our refreshed minds!
So here's what I really need to ponder: God promises to renew our minds (Romans 12:2). What does that mean? How do we pursue him so that that renewal can happen? Sounds like what is being promised is a fresh start. I love that idea! And wow, we could use it!
I have a great friend whose wife's family pulled the kids out of school and sailed around the world for two years when she was young. That's what I'm talking about! I envision getting in the car and hitting the road, heading west to San Diego first and then north to the Canadian border. And then maybe east across the top of the country and when we run out of room to the east we can head south to the Carolinas before turning the car back toward the west and home. For some reason I envision this happening in an old VW bus with the windows down and the wind blowing through our hair (for those in my family that have hair--can the wind blow through Audreys mohawk or my shaved head?). Anyhow I am feeling the call of the open road and what that would do for our souls.
Of course the timing is all off--the girls start school in exactly 20 days. But mark my words, before it's all said and done we're gonna take the mother of all roadtrips. Put that one on the bucket list.
1. Please pray for the renewal of our minds, in whatever form that takes.
2. I feel thankful for the basics--food, shelter, clothes, etc.. Praise God for the basics!
3. Please pray for courage for Audrey as she is going from a school where her class had 30 kids to a school where the freshman class is about 1000 kids! And she doesn't know a soul. This is definitely a good move for her and she is both thrilled and terrified. Please pray for peace for her. And a good friend right off the bat would be an extra great blessing.
4. Joanne could use a dose of hope--dealing with discouragement these days. Pray that God would provide her a vision of what her life can be, and not get stuck in what is.