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  • On Jan. 11, Joanne suffered a major stroke. She is now at home and continues on the journey to recovery.

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Toben, this made me weep. AllI can say is Amen!


This is a really precious post. I will pray for your passion for serving her. I am sure it means the world to her that she has you and you serve her even in the little things and pay attn to the details (I think that's all any woman really wants!) :)


What a wonderful prayer request, one that I'm sure God will be glad to answer...praying for you all!


I'm sure that Joann is also serving you, albeit differently than 'pre-stroke.' If you or she feel lead to share that perspective at some point, I think it would be a blessing to many.


Beautiful and Loving . . . so many husbands lack the passion for loving their wives. Joanne is very Blessed to have you Toben!

Kirsten in Chicago suburbia

I've been following Joanne since before you went to Arizona...each of your continued posts are showing your vulnerability and strengths.
My daughter has had seizures as a result of brain surgery (10 years ago); she is on three anti-seizure drugs. At almost 11 years old, she still has NO concept of time. THANK YOU for sharing how you strategically use the alarm on Joanne's phone - definitely something we can try here!!!
Remember to continue to pace yourself for the marathon - you're doing great so far!


When I read "Joanne hates the sound of her own voice" it reminded me of Joyce Meyers. She has always had a deep voice for a woman, and hated it for years. But, now she is a hugely well known Bible teacher and her distinct voice helps you to recognize her anytime you hear it.

Marla Taviano

I love you both and pray for you daily. Hugs, hugs, hugs!! Thank you for being such an inspiration.


What a sweet and loving post. I love to read your blog… love to read about how you thoughtfully engage all of the women in your life. You are such an inspiration of loving servitude and what it looks like to be a student of life. You study your daughters, celebrate their differences , and when you could easily grumble about the challenges you face each day, you see them as sweet opportunities. I've followed y'all since the day of Joanne's stroke and I marvel each time I read what a precious picture you all are of God's children. Thank you for sharing so openly and transparently and thank you for showing us how to love well.


I am overwhelmed by your example of love and grace Toben. Such an example of Christ. The way Jesus told us to love our wives.

Praying for you . . . hoping you take some "Toben" time along the way. Important to keep your cup filled so you can serve out of the overflow. . . Blessings . . .


I am in awe of you Toben and your posts. As a wife, I could only hope and pray that my husband would step up to the plate as you have. And I know he would theoretically - but to see it in action is an amazing thing. You are a blessing as a dad and a husband to your family. Thanks for sharing!

Ali M.

Great post...praying!

Deb Whitmore

Praying for you as one stroke survivor caregiver to another. Each day we face new challenges on this journey but with the love and support of family, friends and our Heavenly Father all things are possible. It is a blessing to have the opportunity to walk beside our spouse on the stroke recovery path and serve them . After six and a half years I can honestly say I am still learning! You are indeed an inspiration and I am so thankful I was lead to your blog. As I read your past posts I remember oh so well being in those same moments and my heart goes out to you and your family. Each one of us in this role share the need for your prayer request today. May you be blessed with many more days at the feet of your dear Joanne.


What a beautiful and loving family you are... still thinking of you and praying.


I will definitely lift this prayer request up. And I will pray you be strengthen as you continue to be such a blessing to your wife.

Terry Ewing

You are truly a man of God!

stephanie smith

May the joy of the Lord be your strength. I will too pray for your prayer request. Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desire of your heart. (Your request pleases Him)


This is so sweet. an example of loving ur wife as Jesus loves d church.


I;m learning from you both. What an amazing love you two have.

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That's amazing about Joanne retaining French! :o)

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