Quick! Before it's time to read to the girls... (which I absolutely LOVE, but I want to get this done too!)
Another helpful book I'm reading is The Five Love Languages of Children. I'm not quite finished yet and I'm not sure I agree with all their parenting stuff, I do have to say that learning about children and the love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, physical touch) has been great.
I bought this especially in regards to Audrey--my child most like me and therefore the one I butt heads with the most! And while I'm still not exactly sure which is her primary love language, reading the book has made me more proactive in expressing love to her in all five languages each day. I've seen a HUGE difference!
She's been much more apt to crawl up in my lap (usually an Emma thing), to throw her arms around me and tell me she loves me, to thank me for the things I do for her (packing a lunch, leading her Brownie troop). Hmmm...maybe physical touch is her deal. That and quality time. I'm praying God will make it abundantly clear to me which one it is.
No matter which language is your child's primary means of receiving and giving love, the authors teach that it's vital to express love in all five ways. It does have influence on discipline too--because discipline in their primary language can be much more severe for them than it would be to another child. For example, if words of affirmation speak love to your child, then harsh words cut them deeper than it would another child whose primary language is something else. It's all very interesting and has given me lots to think about.
Of course, reading all of this has made me think about Emma too and set me on a path of figuring out her language as well. Not to mention Toben and the ways in which he receives love best. All in all, a pretty eye-opening and helpful read.
Tomorrow I have an interview in the morning, a book outline to finish, and then I'm going to be CRAFTY! I can hardly wait...