So a couple of people have asked me in the past day or so what the turning point was in our story. Of having the conversation to call it quits to moving back to some sort of a happy "normal" life.
And as I've thought about it and answered someone last night, I realize there was not really a turning point. It's not like one day we were headed for divorce and the next day we weren't. There wasn't really a defining moment when I thought, This is it. We're turning a corner and we're okay now.
It was really more of a wide U-turn. So slow and gradual that it took a year or so rather than a moment or a day to get turned around. So slow and gradual that we didn't even notice it was happening at first.
The truth is, it took a while to hit bottom. And we stayed there a while. And it took a while to climb back out. And we're still climbing.
I think this is encouraging. 'Cause we are still at the bottom & I am not seeing signs of coming back up yet. And I'm really scared.
Posted by: ginger | 08/10/2009 at 07:20 PM
The hardest part about hitting the bottom...I realized it before he did. I had to start climbing without him, hoping that he would decide that climbing was what he wanted to do too. It took awhile but eventually he started climbing. We're still working on getting out of the pit, but at least we're climbing together now.
Posted by: Allison Johnson | 08/12/2009 at 03:29 PM
I have become an alcoholic and go to AA for this, the psychiatrist thinks I'm cyclothymic and put me on lithium. It's not a happy diagnosis and your story was helpful but your medication regime sounds truly awful. I too am a Christian but feel totally out of place in church. The people at church look so perfect and I am so less than perfect. Your story on WCRF was great to hear. I don't feel so alone. I commend you and your wife for your courage to speak out. LG
Posted by: LG | 09/03/2009 at 07:51 PM